On "being consistent"
Plus an important invitation to the BOS workshop this Sunday at 11am PT
Many readers tell me that their greatest challenge in their magical or spiritual practice is “being consistent.”
If you have ADHD like moi, you’ve definitely experienced this…
…you get excited about something like witchcraft; you recognize its benefits; you start off strong, buying the gear, lighting the candles on the full moon; then, before you know it…
… you haven’t pulled a tarot card, done a spell, or showed up for a ritual in months.
It’s demoralizing to time and again recognize the opportunities available to you, but not be able to consistently follow through on them.
For most of us, when we “fail” to be consistent, we can get down on ourselves, lamenting, “What am I doing? What’s my problem? Why can’t I show up for the things I want to do?”
When we get down on ourselves about our consistency – writing, witchcrafting, cleaning, whatever – it’s easy to do one of two things:
Give up and pivot to a “bad habit” (you know what yours are)
Or just turn to the next bright shiny object, thinking “aha! I wasn’t able to be consistent with that last thing… but this is the one that’s going to save me!”
But abandoning things we cherish is rooted in shame and fight/flight/freeze responses, not wise decision-making (as I’m sure you already know!).
For me, some of the biggest consequences of abandoning things I care about due to a lack of consistency are:
A slow erosion of self trust: “I can’t count on myself”
Increased shame and negative self talk: “What’s wrong with me?”
Feeling like a ghost in your own life: “I used to feel so connected, life used to be enchanted, now I don’t even know who I am anymore.”
If any of this sounds familiar to you, here’s the good news…
Enchantment, your magic, is about relationship. To yourself. To the world. It’s not a fixed state. It’s not a prize or an achievement. It is a RELATIONSHIP.
And unlike many, many other relationships, your magic will always be here for you no matter what you do. You can ALWAYS return to it. In fact…
…returning to your magic when you’ve fallen away from it is a practice that will help you with everything in your life.
Every time you make the choice to turn towards magic, you build stronger neural pathways to the lands of enchantment, which make it easier to return the next time.
Neural pathways can’t grow if you jump ship, but they become strong and sturdy every time you do an action that reaffirms your commitment to your own inner world and the Mystery in which you dwell.
I’ve created a something to help witches who drift and return (that is, most of us!) it’s called, “The Book of Shadows workshop” and it takes place this Sunday.
If you’re burned out on offerings, trust yourself. Don’t sweat it. But…
… if you’ve been struggling to stay connected to your magic or yourself recently, I created this workshop for you! Scroll down for more details.
Yours with love,
Amanda
What we’ll cover in the Book of Shadows workshop this Sunday:
The Book of Shadows is one of the key tools of witchcraft and magical practice
Rituals of Return: working with your Book of Shadows as a way of returning to yourself
How your Book of Shadows can reinforce your identity as a witch (a crucial concept if you don’t want your rituals to be just another thing on your to do list)
Easy, low bar ways of working with your Book of Shadows that can give you a dopamine hit, reinforce your motivation loops, and build skill in your craft
Tools for reducing resistance and increasing consistency in working with your BOS (and everything else)
Troubleshooting past BOS issues
and building self trust through practice
WHEN:
Sunday, 12/14/25 at 11am - 12:30pm PT.
WHERE:
Zoom. Link will be sent out on Saturday afternoon.
WHAT TO BRING:
A journal you’d like to convert to a Book of Shadows; and whatever art supplies you have that feel inspiring to you (think colored pens, watercolors, paints, collage materials, whatever you have on your shelves); a cup of water, a bowl of salt, incense, and a candle.
How Much:
Free to all Annual and Founder’s level subscribers as a gift for your commitment to my work.
Important Note to Monthly Subscribers:
Your monthly membership gets you Full Moon rituals and downloadable monthly Witch Guides, plus quarterly reading groups and tarot practice classes. These Book of Shadows and Cards of the Year workshops for Annual and Founder’s level subscribers are not meant to punish you, but to provide an incentive for people to commit to a full year of Mystery Cult — but also… Annual subscriptions are 20% LESS expensive than Monthly memberships. Subscribing to a yearly plan will save you $69 dollars and get you three free workshops! I want everyone to be able to participate in my work (but I also need to make a sustainable income to keep making this work for everyone). If you can’t afford a yearly membership — we have sliding scale rates (see below)!
*We have scholarships for those in financial need. Let’s find something that works for both of us. Don’t be shy. To find out more, email us at: guardian@oracleoflosangeles.com
